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Parsha Perspectives: Morality, Moderation and Maturation (Kedoshim)

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“And the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, Speak to the entire congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them, you shall be holy, for I, the Lord, your God, am holy.” (Vayikra 19:1-3)

We strive for it, we yearn for it, yet we find it difficult to define. We translate the word Kedusha as holiness, but what does it mean to be holy? How can holiness be measured? How do we know if we have been successful in becoming holy people?

The commentaries provide many insights. The Midrash explains that the definition of holiness is “Divine emulation.” Whatever God does, we are charged to do the same. The Talmud elaborates, “Just as God clothed the naked (Adam and Chava), so shall you clothe the naked. Just as God visits the sick (as He visited with Avraham after the bris), so shall you visit the sick…” The Talmud’s examples are focused on chessed (acts of charitable kindness), and so it would seem that the highest form of Divine emulation is to be a Baal Chessed, a kind, giving and charitable person. True Kedusha, pure holiness, lies in the ability to transcend the self and focus on the other.

Rashi provides another definition: “Separate yourself from immorality and sin.” Core holiness is defined by one’s ability to fight against the urges, desires, and wants that often debase us. God can tolerate our shortcomings and mistakes, but we must strive to be a moral nation. Without morality (specifically sexual morality), we are no different than animals. Holiness is the ability to resist temptation and remain on the proper path of life.

Ramban (Nachmanidies) explains that holiness means moderation. Learn to limit yourself even with those things which are permitted to you. The true indication of holiness is the ability to exercise restraint even in those areas in which one can technically overindulge. The trait of restraint is perhaps the most important ingredient in successful living. It is easy to lose oneself in the (permitted) pleasures of this world. We must learn to exercise restraint in the world of the permitted to ensure that we do not cross the line into the world of the illicit. We must learn to say that just because we can have it doesn’t mean we should. This ability to exercise restraint ensures that we can each master our individual wants and passions and not become slaves to them.

Rav Menachem Mendel of Vorka (1779-1848) looks at this command in a dramatically different fashion. The Rebbe asks, “Is it truly possible and is it fair to ask man to aspire to this level of holiness? Rather, God is not asking us to be like the angels, for this is impossible for physical, carnal man. God simply asks us L’hiyos Kodesh b’madreyga she’hu omeyd bah (be holy wherever you are and wherever you stand), achieve holiness on whatever level you may be, in whatever state you may find yourself.”

God is teaching us to find and achieve holiness in all we do. Often, we compartmentalize holiness. We are holy in certain areas and mundane in others. We may be kadosh (holy) in Shul, yet mundane in the workplace. We may be holy when speaking to God, yet ordinary in the way we speak to others. The Rebbe teaches us that we must infuse holiness in all we do, B’Chol Matzav She’Tihiyu Bo (in every situation that you find yourself). Everything we do in life can serve a higher purpose. When we are in the workplace, we can make a Kiddush Hashem (sanctification of God’s name) by conducting ourselves with honesty and integrity. When walking on the street, we can be holy by proactively greeting the other – Jew and Gentile alike. When we watch a sunrise, we can see the greatness of God’s creation. Everything we do can be infused with holiness and meaning.

The Rebbe takes this idea one step further. The real definition of holiness is pushing yourself just a bit further. The enemy of holiness is not impurity or sin; it is complacency. Kedoshim Tihiyu, B’Chol Matzav She’Tihiyu Bo, Hiskadshu V’Alu Kim’ah (be holy, in every situation, in every state of being – sanctify yourself and raise yourself even just a little bit) – just a little bit. All God asks of us is just to try a little harder. Wherever you are holding in life, try to nudge yourself a bit further along your personal, sacred path. God does not ask for perfection or even near-perfection. God asks for effort. You don’t have to reach the finish line to become holy. You just have to start running.

Too often, we shy away from life initiatives because we are not confident we can accomplish what we set out to do. Life is not about getting to the top of your personal mountain; it is about having the courage to begin the climb. And after you start the climb, success is defined by taking one step after the other. They may be small steps and to the outside world it may not even look like you are moving, but you know you are placing one foot in front of the other, and God knows that you are trying. Even if you don’t reach your intended destination or see the actualization of your intended goal, if you have put in the effort and advanced your cause to the best of your ability, you have been successful.

Kedoshim Tihiyu (be holy) – we must strive to emulate our Creator and think beyond ourselves. We must strive to be a nation governed by morality and self-restraint. We must strive to be individuals who find and infuse holiness into everything we do and every experience we have. We must each find the courage to propel and push ourselves forward and work just a bit harder in order to actualize the great potential we possess within. May we each find the strength to continue the journey, advance the climb, and find the holiness that surely awaits. (From 5779)

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Parsha Perspectives: Mastering the Self (Acharei Mos/Kedoshim)

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“And the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, ‘Speak to the entire congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them, you shall be holy, for I, the Lord, your God, am holy.’” (Vayikra 19:1-3) 

It seems like a simple directive, “Kedoshim Tihiyu, you shall be holy.” So simple, yet so profound and complex.  What does it mean to be holy? How do we actualize this holiness?

The commentaries advance many different ideas and insights as to the meaning and actualization of the holiness concept. Rashi explains, “Separate yourself from immorality and sin.” Core holiness is defined by one’s ability to fight against the urges and desires which cast us in the abyss of immorality. God can tolerate our shortcomings and mistakes, but we must strive to be a moral nation. Without morality (specifically sexual morality), we are no different than animals. Holiness is the ability to resist temptation and remain on the proper path of life.

Ramban (Nachmanidies) explains that holiness means moderation. Learn to limit yourself even with those things which are permitted to you. Just because something is permitted does not mean it is good or appropriate. Everything we do in life, every decision we make has a lasting impact and creates a ripple effect. When assessing a particular course of action, it is not enough to ask, “is this forbidden or permitted?” Sometimes, even if the action is permitted, it can still create negative repercussions going forward. The true indication of holiness is the ability to exercise restraint even in those areas in which one can technically overindulge.

Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch brings these two ideas together.

“Kedusha (holiness) is the product of the completest mastery by the God-like free-willed human being over all his forces and natural tendencies, with the allurements and inclinations associated with them, and placing them at the disposal of God’s Will. This mastery over one’s self, the highest possible art which human beings can practice, does not consist of neglecting, curtailing, killing, or doing away with any of one’s powers or natural tendencies … Virtuosity in this, the highest human art, is only attained, as in other art, by practice, by constant exercise in using one’s moral free will in mastering existing tendencies … That is the work that everybody is called on to perform, each one according to his own individual peculiarities, the work that is done quietly, silently, known to no one but himself, on his own inner self …” 

Holiness is self-mastery. Holiness is when you realize that you control how you act. Holiness is when you understand that you have control over the life you lead and the person you are. Holiness is the state of being, achieved when you realize that “the buck stops with you.” When a person exhibits “Rashi-like” strength and abstains from immoral and negative behaviors, and when a person exhibits “Ramban-like” strength and at times chooses to abstain from certain behaviors, not because they are prohibited but because they are not conducive to his ongoing growth – this person has become holy. We can control ourselves. Once we acknowledge that we each possess self-control, we become the master of our decisions and destinies. This is kedusha; this is true holiness.

We often think of holiness as the state of being which one reaches because of dynamic, positive, spiritual activity. While this is certainly true, there is an important first step: self-mastery. Holiness is achieved only when one becomes the master of his self. Too often, we are enslaved by our desires, passions, and proclivities. We feel we lack control over the direction and quality of our lives. We say to ourselves and others, “This is who I am!” The truth is, there is no such statement as “this is who I am” only, “this is who I choose to be.” We often cannot choose the influences which try to propel us in different directions, but we can make the final decision if we will act on them. The path to holiness is often long and challenging, but it all begins with a recognition that we each possess the control and mastery of who we become.

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Parsha Perspectives: Acharei Mos Kedoshim-Giving and Getting

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“You shall not oppress your fellow. You shall not rob. The hired worker’s wage shall not remain with you overnight until morning.” (Vayikra 19:13)

The Parsha begins with the obligation of “Kedoshim tihiyu (You shall be holy)”. Holiness is not found solely in our relationship with God, it is also an integral part of our relationship with one another. Whereas, in our relationship with God holiness is manifest in the fulfillment of the mitzvos, in our relationship with our fellow, holiness can be found in treating the other with dignity, honor and respect. As such, the Torah lays down basic requirements. If someone does work for you – pay them in a timely fashion. Don’t take advantage of someone who is in a compromised life situation. Don’t take the possessions of another.

The Torah discusses two forms of theft, gineyva and gezel. Gineyva is theft performed secretly, surreptitiously and without the knowledge of others. Gizeyla is brazen theft; the thief stealing the item often with the knowledge of the owner in a public display of blatant disregard. In the aforementioned verse, the Torah highlights the prohibition of gezel. Jewish law explains that even the gazlan (thief) can do teshuva (repent) by returning the stolen object. There is repentance even for the most brazen acts of theft.  Yet the Talmud (Bava Kama 94b) explains that if the stolen object is no longer in existence and the thief comes to return the value of the object, the victim must refuse repayment. The Gemara calls this, Takanas HaShavim (an enactment for the benefit of, or to facilitate the performance of teshuva). In other words, the Rabbis understood that if a person wanted to repent from his sinful way but realized that doing so would cost him a good deal of money and result in financial loss – he would simply abstain from changing. Society has a vested interest in the reformation of the criminal and the Rabbis asked the victim to take a personal loss to enable the thief to change his crooked ways and become a productive cog in the societal wheel.

There are two incredible lessons which emerge from this halacha.

We must invest in each other. The Lubavitcher Rebbe explains that when it comes to spirituality, we often assume, “You take care of your neshoma (soul) and I’ll take care of mine.” It is certainly true that we must each exercise personal responsibility over our lives. Only we can determine who we are and who we will become. Only we can decide the nature of the lives we will lead and the quality of the identities we will create. Yet, we must find ways to facilitate growth in our fellow Jew. When the thief shows up at the doorstep of the victim and offers repayment, the victim has the incredible opportunity to do something to help enable change in the thief. By declining the offer of repayment, he is allowing the thief to avoid choosing between spiritual growth the financial loss. The victim invests in the growth of the thief and the world is better for it.

We all want to be good. The Rabbis understood that even the thief wants to come back to God. Even the sinner desires holiness. So, what stops the sinner from returning “home?” It’s hard. It’s challenging to change your lifestyle. It’s difficult to give up behaviors which have been part of your daily rhythm. And its really difficult when change is going to cost money. Even when a person wants to do and be good – if the cost of change is too steep, most people will simply slip back into their established patterns of behavior.  The Rabbis stepped in and removed obstacles to change in order to benefit the sinner and greater society.  We all want to be good – it’s just that sometimes the obstacles look too difficult overcome.

From this simple phrase, “You shall not rob”, we learn about our inner goodness and the need to bring it out in the other. May we find the strength to believe in each other and in ourselves. 

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Parsha Perspectives: Kedoshim-Morality, Moderation and Maturation

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“And the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, Speak to the entire congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them, you shall be holy, for I, the Lord, your God, am holy.” (Vayikra 19:1-3)

We strive for it, we yearn for it, yet we find it difficult to define. We translate the word Kedusha as holiness, but what does it mean to be holy? How can holiness be measured? How do we know if we have been successful in becoming holy people?

The commentaries provide many insights. The Midrash explains that the definition of holiness is “Divine emulation.” Whatever God does, we are charged to do the same. The Talmud elaborates, “Just as God clothed the naked (Adam and Chava), so shall you clothe the naked.  Just as God visits the sick (as He visited with Avraham after the bris), so shall you visit the sick…” The Talmud’s examples are focused on chessed (acts of charitable kindness) and so it would seem that the highest form of Divine emulation is to be a Baal Chessed, a kind, giving and charitable person. True Kedusha, pure holiness, lies in the ability to transcend the self and focus on the other.

Rashi provides another definition: “Separate yourself from immorality and sin.” Core holiness is defined by one’s ability to fight against the urges, desires and wants that often debase us. God can tolerate our shortcomings and mistakes, but we must strive to be a moral nation. Without morality (specifically sexual morality) we are no different than animals. Holiness is the ability to resist temptation and remain on the proper path of life.

Ramban (Nachmanidies) explains that holiness means moderation. Learn to limit yourself even with those things which are permitted to you. The true indication of holiness is the ability to exercise restraint even in those areas in which one can technically overindulge. The trait of restraint is perhaps the most important ingredient in successful living. It is easy to lose oneself in the (permitted) pleasures of this world. We must learn to exercise restraint in the world of the permitted to ensure that we do not cross the line into the world of the illicit. We must learn to say that just because we can have it, doesn’t mean we should.  This ability to exercise restraint ensures that we can each master our individual wants and passions and not become slaves to them.

 Rav Menachem Mendel of Vorka (1779-1848) looks at this command in a dramatically different fashion. The Rebbe asks, “Is it truly possible, and is it fair to ask man to aspire to the level of holiness? Rather, God is not asking us to be like the angels, for this is impossible for physical, carnal man. God simply asks us L’hiyos Kodesh b’madreyga she’hu omeyd bah (be holy wherever you are and wherever you stand), achieve holiness on whatever level you may be, in whatever state you may find yourself.” 

God is teaching us to find and achieve holiness in all we do. Often, we compartmentalize holiness. We are holy in certain areas and mundane in others. We may be kadosh(holy) in Shul, yet mundane in the workplace. We may be holy when speaking to God, yet ordinary in the way we speak to others. The Rebbe teaches us that we must infuse holiness in all we do, B’Chol Matzav She’Tihiyu Bo (in every situation and state of being). Everything we do in life can serve a higher purpose. When we are in the workplace we can make a Kiddush Hashem (sanctification of God’s name) by conducting ourselves with honesty and integrity. When walking on the street we can be holy by proactively greeting the other – Jew and Gentile alike. When we watch a sunrise, we can see the greatness of God’s creation. Everything we do can be infused with holiness and meaning.

The Rebbe takes this idea one step further. The real definition of holiness is pushing yourself just a bit further. The enemy of holiness is not impurity or sin, it is complacency. Kedoshim Tihiyu, B’Chol Matzav She’Tihiyu Bo, Hiskadshu V’Alu Kim’ah (be holy, in every situation, in every state of being – sanctify yourself and raise yourself even just a little bit) – just a little bit. All God asks of us is just to try a little harder. Wherever you are holding in life, try to nudge yourself a bit further along your personal, sacred path. God does not ask for perfection or even near-perfection. God asks for effort. You don’t have to reach the finish line to become holy. You just have to start running. 

 Too often we shy away from life initiatives because we are not confident we can accomplish what we set out to do. Life is not about getting to the top of your personal mountain, it is about having the courage to begin the climb. And after you start the climb, success is defined by taking one step after the other. They may be small steps and to the outside world it may not even look like you are moving, but you know you are placing one foot in front of the other and God knows that you are trying. Even if you don’t reach your intended destination or see the actualization of your intended goal, if you put in the effort and advanced your cause to the best of your ability, you have been successful.

Kedoshim Tihiyu (be holy) – we must strive to emulate our Creator and think beyond ourselves. We must strive to be a nation governed by morality and self-restraint. We must strive to be individuals who find and infuse holiness into everything we do and every experience we have. We must each find the courage to propel and push ourselves forward and work just a bit harder in order to actualize the great potential we possess within. May we each find the strength to continue the journey, advance the climb and find the holiness that surely awaits.

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